Happiness Tips for Increasing Your Happiness as an Introvert ByDerrick CarpenterDerrick CarpenterFacebookTwitter Derrick Carpenter is a positive psychology coach at Happify, a website and app that uses science-based activities to help people live happier lives. Learn about our editorial processUpdated on March 27, 2020Medically reviewed Verywell Mind articles are reviewed by board-certified physicians and mental healthcare professionals. Medical Reviewers confirm the content is thorough and accurate, reflecting the latest evidence-based research. Content is reviewed before publication and upon substantial updates. Learn more. by Rachel Goldman, PhD, FTOSMedically reviewed byRachel Goldman, PhD, FTOSFacebookLinkedInTwitterRachel Goldman, PhD FTOS, is a licensed psychologist, clinical assistant professor, speaker, wellness expert specializing in eating behaviors, stress management, and health behavior change.Learn about our Medical Review BoardMark de Leeuw / Getty Images Take a moment and imagine the happiest person you know. Got him or her in mind? Now think about how you would describe that person’s personality. Did adjectives like outgoing, energetic, or bubbly come to mind? It’s very likely that one of the personality traits you described is related to extroversion, or the tendency to draw energy from being engaged in the world and social situations. Studies do show that the extroverted among us are also more likely to be happier. So what are those of us who identify as introverts to make of this? What Does Being an Introvert Mean? First, we should be clear about what being an introvert means. While scientists don’t fully agree on the definition of extroversion, it's most typically associated with characteristics such as seeking excitement, gregariousness, enthusiasm, dominance, and ambition. Introversion is the tendency to be more inwardly focused and less motivated for social interaction. Introverts tend to have fewer relationships and spend less time socializing than extroverts.8 Signs You Might Be an Introvert Introversion and Happiness It is absolutely true that healthy and meaningful relationships play a significant role in our happiness, and that extroverts may spend more time connecting with others or may enjoy that time more. Some research claims that the inherent differences between introverts and extroverts are related to the dopamine system in the brain, which makes pleasurable rewards (including social interaction) more salient to extroverts. This suggests that extroverts may be more likely to experience positive emotions. Despite the recent push against the marginalization of introverts by authors such as Susan Cain, author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking, our culture often lauds the exuberance of the extrovert and many of us associate “outgoing” with “well-being.” While introverts are generally likely to report lower levels of happiness than extroverts, this does not mean that introverts are unhappy. Ultimately, it’s important to note the happiness benefits of both introverted and extroverted behavior, no matter where you fall on the spectrum. One consistent theme in happiness research is that your choices and behaviors (which are in your control and changeable) have significant effects on your well-being, even if your natural tendency is to pull the opposite direction. How Introverts Can Increase Their Happiness Here are a few tips for those of us with introverted tendencies to enhance our happiness. See Your Whole Self It’s important to note that the scale on which introversion and extroversion are measured is just that: a scale. We all fall somewhere along the bell-curve between these two extremes. That means that people who are strong introverts or strong extroverts are rare. A large portion of the population hovers closer to the middle, meaning that there are times when they prefer socializing and the energy of a crowd, but other times, quiet and solitude is the right fit. These folks are more accurately labeled as ambiverts. Within each of us lies some tendency to recharge our batteries through social interaction and affiliation with others and another tendency to recharge on our own. Be honest with yourself about what you need in a given moment and allow yourself permission to have it. When calling a friend to hang out feels right, make a lunch date. And when you’d rather curl up with a good book, go for it. Understanding how your own tendencies to reach out or withdraw affect you is an important aspect of managing your own well-being. Embrace Your Introvert Strengths Introverted behavior has an upside that often gets understated. Introverts tend to be better problem solvers, perform better academically, exhibit stronger regulation of their behavior, and are less likely to take risks that may cause them harm. Research shows that introverts may experience these benefits as a result of having more gray matter in their prefrontal cortex, the area at the front of the brain that controls complex and abstract thinking, emotion regulation, and decision making. In many classical and theological perspectives on happiness from Aristotle to the Buddha, spending time alone and contemplating the meaning and purpose of our lives is a necessity. Learn to embrace your unique introvert qualities and tap into the happiness they bring you, whether that’s teaching yourself something new, exploring nature on a solo trek, or cultivating your creative side. Act the Part In studies where introverts were instructed to act like extroverts in a group of people, they ended up experiencing greater positive emotion than introverts acting normally (in fact, they rated their positive emotion higher than the naturally extroverted people, too) and reported feeling more authentic at the moment. Other research shows that naturally happy introverts behave in similar ways to naturally happy extroverts. Particularly when you are already going to be socializing, act the part of an extrovert. This doesn’t mean you should be inauthentic. Just bring more of your real self. Be an extroverted introvert. Harness that rich inner world of yours and jump into the conversation more, share your opinion, crack a joke, and take the spotlight every once in a while. And if you’re not socializing much, encourage yourself to connect with others in the ways that work well for you. Join a group to take part in an activity you already love, like a choir, book club, or fitness class. Even though initiating these decisions may feel like an extra effort, the payoff should be noticeable. When you realize you acted more extroverted in a way that felt good, keep it up. Although shyness and introversion have only a mild correlation, if being more socially engaged scares you, your shyness may be what’s holding you back. The key here is confidence. Build self-efficacy (or the proof to yourself that you can succeed at a task) by taking small social risks first. Reach out to a friend you haven’t connected with lately. Call rather than text. Make eye contact with a salesperson. 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